Must See Christian Marriage Advice Tips For Engaged Couples

Christian marriage advice for engaged couples.

If you and your partner are engaged and are planning to get married, you can get marital counsel from the minister of your church. He/she can give you Christian marriage tips and advice on how to prepare for marriage and also give you Christian relationship advice based on the scriptures in the Bible that talk about marriage.

Workshops and seminars.

As an engaged couple you might want to find out about seminars and workshops that can give you Christian advice to help you prepare for the marriage that you and your partner are planning. At these workshops, you may be able to get some literature with marital counsel that you can take home with you as well.

Are there any books we can read?

If you are looking for some Christian relationship advice, and you want to find books about marriage from a Christian perspective, you will find many books on marriage, but when you go to look for these books that give Christian marriage advice, you want to be very careful as you search, for there are some people who claim to offer marital counsel in the books they have written, but then the books talk about everything but marriage.

It is very easy to get caught up in these scams, when looking for Christian marriage advice. However, you may also be able to find DVDs and audio recordings on line and on CDs that can give you good quality, usable Christian marriage advice.

By M.R

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Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.

Marriage Problems - Tips For Healing

Christian marriage problems are not much different than non Christian marriage problems and both require healing at times. There are problems dealing with communication, trust, intimacy etc. and unfortunately, mental, emotional and physical abuse are also problems in a Christian Marriage.

The problems that Christian's face in their marriage can easily lead to a breakup if they aren't wise enough to deal with them the right way. Often times, couples find themselves arguing about non important issues and sometimes frustration sets in and small problems become big problems.

One major problem that you will never be able to solve or change is that you are human and not perfect. Therefore, you and your spouse will have problems in your marriage, some little ones and perhaps some big ones. When you do it's important who, how and when you address the problem and begin to move on.

Here are some tips for healing a Christian Marriage;

Believe and trust God and His Word to help you heal your broken marriage. God wants to help you move forward and not stay still or worse go backwards in your relationship.

Forgive and forget past problems or actions in your marriage that keep you grounded in the past. Don't let your growth be blocked by your past problems.

Work with your spouse to reconcile any important differences you have in your marriage and remove repetitive actions that you know lead to problems.

Give your best effort to avoid behaviors that result in pain for your spouse.

Don't hold feelings of anger or contempt toward your spouse for past indiscretions. If you can't let go of negative feelings you have for your spouse it will be difficult to heal your relationship problems.

Guard who you discuss your marriage problems with and who you rely on for advice. Not everyone is wise and has the right perspective for your marriage. You don't want to make small problems big ones because of bad advice you receive.

There are ways for you to resolve conflicts, improve your communication, and build a stronger, richer and almost problem free Christian marriage. It doesn't mean that you won't have problems but you should be able to handle them from a Godly perspective and your Christian marriage problems should not be more than together you can't solve.

Conclusion:

God and I want your marriage to succeed. I'm sure prayers for your marriage are being offered up to God and God is in the business of answering prayers.

 By D.P.H

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Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.

Building an Ideal Christian Home

Life is beautiful and ideal Christian home is beautiful as life. It starts with the couple potentially loving themselves as believers, progressively teaching their children the way of the Lord and powerfully propagating the Gospel of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ to give lives a new meaning.

Potentially, the couple builds their self-concept, understands the rules of relationship and maxims of maturity to have a beautiful marriage.

Progressively, they create a strong family bond where they teach their children the Word of God and train them in the way they should go (Proverb 22:6).

Powerfully, the couple builds intimacy in their spiritual life through faith in God. Thereby living the Word of God and doing the right things at the right time and for the right purpose, by the power of the Holy Spirit. As a child of God and blessed couple, you should build a closer relationship with God; building a strong bond of shared faith that do not just build an extraordinary marital bond but creates the perfect bond of unity among the family members to accomplish God's vision and be totally fulfilled.

An ideal Christian home is a concept that begins with the couple. In other words, the couple must build their self-concept first, and love each other. They should understand the rules of real relationship, what it takes to have a beautiful marriage, especially when it comes to spiritual connection to build a unique family bond and allow God to be in charge of your home.

Ideal Christian home is very important. That is why our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ described marriage on a very spiritual level. "And said, For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be united firmly (joined inseparably) to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh" (Matthew 19:5 AMP). This instruction is very vital to the extent that God Himself gave it at creation in Genesis 2:24.

Therefore in order to build an ideal Christian home, couples should learn to cling to the Lord (Deuteronomy 10:20), hold fast to God's ways (Deuteronomy 11:22), serve God and cling to Him (Deuteronomy 13:4), obey God's voice and hold fast to Him (Deuteronomy 30:20). When couples do this, they establish a lifestyle which enables them to train the fruits of their marriage, their children to be like them. Thereby making their home an ideal Christian home (Psalms 128:3, Act 16:13).

The couple is made up of man and wife and the man is the father of the home. It is absolutely in the man's best interest to make Christ Jesus his head because every Christian home is founded on the solid rock - Christ Jesus (Matthew 7: 24-25). Every man should get married to his wife (Genesis 2:18) and build an ideal Christian home.

By A.S.C

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Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.

Hope for Troubled Christian Marriages - 5 Tips for Stability and Sanity

Being a Christian does not insulate your marriage from times of trouble. Like every other person walking around and breathing, Christian relationships can be ransacked with the pain of infidelity, the cold distance resulting from bitterness, and the loneliness of conflict. Here are 5 things you can do to bring a sense of stability and sanity to a troubled Christian marriage:

1. Recognize there is a problem

As a counselor, I am always amazed at the energy that is spent in denying the existence of a troubled relationship. Spouses - male and female - will go to great lengths to avoid dealing with a problem. Problems will be denied, overlooked, or even ignored in hopes that they will somehow resolve themselves. Sadly, it does not happen, and couples find their relationship in dire circumstances.

Couple Tip: Admit there is a problem. You do not necessarily have to agree on the cause of the problem. Simply agreeing a problem exists can cause a change in attitude.

2. "Quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger."

James 1:19 reminds us to "Post this at all the intersections, dear friends: Lead with your ears, follow up with your tongue, and let anger straggle along in the rear." (The Message). Quick tempers and a lack of listening to one another is a sure fire way to get into an argument. James emphasizes the significance of listening over talking.

Couple Tip: Consider whether you are truly listening to your spouse's need or are you interrupting so that you do not have to take any blame?

3. Do not make a major life changing decisions regarding divorce

When I counsel couples I am always interested in whether one spouse has already spoken to a divorce attorney. This often tells me the depth of their emotional pain. Hasty decisions can have permanent consequences. Divorce can always take place. Reconciliation after divorce requires more work.

Couple Tip: If you feel like talking to a divorce attorney then consider talking to a trusted friend about your motives. Are you making your decision based on emotion?
If you do talk to an attorney, do not make any final decision for 60 - 90 days. Emotions can be very volatile even for 30 days.

4. Support, support, support

Assuming you both desire to save your marriage, I encourage you to find some likeminded fellow Christians that can walk with you during this time. Many churches have marriage mentor programs, or a pastor to will meet with you. Some of the best advice we received was even from older couples that my husband and I sought out to talk with.

Couple Tip: Dare to ask for help. It is much easier to isolate than to reach out. No one can help you if you do not ask for it.

5. Pray blessings for your spouse

Too often when we are in the midst of crisis, our prayers remain self focused. If I shift my focus from wanting justification for my behavior to blessings for my spouse then my attitude will become more peaceful. Therefore, I am more amiable and approachable.

Couple Tip: Write down 15 things you are grateful for your spouse for, and share the list with them either verbally or in a card or email.

6. Get some professional help.

Sometimes it is difficult to see the end of the tunnel when we are in the middle of a storm. It is important to get some professional help, especially if you feel like you are reaching a dead end or getting stuck in that same old patterns.

Couple Tip: Find a local counselor that can help you work through the issues of your marriage. Ask your pastor, or friends for a referral of a qualified counselor.

Being a Christian does not guarantee your relationships will be wrinkle free. However, God does promise to walk with us through these times, and provide respite when we need it. (Psalm 23) and provide hope for troubled marriages.

By T.G

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Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.

5 Lies About Pornography That Will Destroy a Christian Wife's Marriage

Award winning Gospel singer and songwriter, Kirk Franklin confessed to being addicted to pornography many years ago. It was a shock to both the Christian and secular communities because most people believe that Christians are immune to falling into sins which have such drastic consequences. For this reason, I'm sure many Christian women wonder if their husbands could become prey to the same monster that threatened to destroy Kirk Franklin's marriage.

While it's typical for Christian men to get lost in the deceptive world of pornography, Christian women often can become victims to this very same sin. You may ask: "How can a Christian woman go this far by getting caught up into pornography?" There are many reasons. She:

- Could have been exposed to pornography as a child by a family member or friend.
- Mistakenly stumbled over a magazine/Internet site as a child or in her youth
- Experimented as an adult before or after marriage
- Watches racy shows such as Desperate Wives, soap operas, or other shows and movies with very pornographic undertones.

Being exposed to all these things can weave a web of pain, deceit, and unfortunately a curiosity which causes a woman to crave more of what is forbidden. While many women believe they have good intentions when watching pornography, it can usher them to a secret world that is very difficult to escape from. 

Furthermore, pornography is readily available on TV and on the computer; so one wrong click or change of the remote can change the course of your destiny for the worse.

The devil would love to use pornography as a method for destroying marriages and so many other things in a woman's life because it's very subtle and seductive at first. Pornography presents its way as an escape from reality, but the problem is that in most cases, once a woman takes that journey, it's so hard to get back on track. It can grow into a stronghold, (a trap set up by the enemy to keep you in bondage), that constantly needs to be fed. To do this, the enemy provides the following lies. He says that pornography can:

1. "Stimulate and increase sexual desire and passion within your marriage."
Many times I have found myself glancing at a magazine, as I've stood in the grocery checkout line, when I see a headline which says, "Find out How Porn Can Strengthen Your Relationship!" While watching porn might make you feel more erotic, it ultimately causes you to focus on the sexual activity rather than pleasing your husband.

2. "Cause you to desire your husband more." When you watch porn, you don't see your husband performing the sexual activity, but some other man with some other woman. Porn causes you to focus on the image of the men (or women) you saw in the video.

3. "Helps you to become more intimate with your husband."
Intimacy involves sharing your heart, mind, body, and spirit with your husband. If anything, watching porn can destroy the intimacy you've built with your husband because you're no longer sharing yourself exclusively with your husband. But now you're sharing it with a fantasy that you've created based on what you've seen in the video or an image. In essence you're committing mental adultery.

4. "You're not hurting anyone."
Yes you are! In addition to hurting yourself by pulling away from God and hindering your relationship with Him, you're separating yourself from you husband. Why? Because you're constantly focusing on the pornography, the images you've seen, and the sounds you've heard. In fact, it could cause you to make unfair comparisons between your husband and the unrealistic men you see. And what happens if your children catch you watching porn? What happens if they get exposed to it and become addicted?

5. "It's not addictive." This is probably the most deceptive lie the enemy tells people. While a woman may be able to watch soap operas, videos, and the Internet, a few times without running back to it, each time she views this type of perverted media, it chips away at her integrity. It also gives her a perverted perception of sex and other people. It also puts something in her heart that will eventually draw her back to the forbidden fruit of pornography. It can be just as addictive as crack or heroine.

For this reason, addiction to pornography requires a strong desire to seek deliverance. You must apply action through:

- Prayer for deliverance (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
- Fasting, when necessary (Matthew 17:21).
- Bible study/research (2 Timothy 2:15)
- Outside help such as Christian counseling, and/or a trusted female accountability partner who

cares about you and is rooted in Christ. (Proverbs 11:14)

While watching pornography can be very detrimental to a woman's family, her fellowship with Christ, heart, and her marriage, deliverance is possible. In fact, Kirk Franklin, who was delivered from the destructive power of pornography, is now a witness that all things are possible through Christ. These "all things" don't just include celebrities, but they also include you and any issues you may struggle with, including pornography!

Tiffany Godfrey, also known as the Committed Wife, is very passionate about helping to save Christian marriages by encouraging Christian women.

If you are blessed by any of the write-ups in this blog, do not forget to share it with others.

You can also share your testimonies with others  on this blog....your testimony will encourage  others..

Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.

The story of love.

Many claim to be the professor of love, but I can tell you, nobody can know more than the originator of  love..God.

God is love,

and there is no how you will tell me you know about love without having the knowledge of who is love.

1 John 4:8

Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love

All the meaningful definition we give to love today erupts from the word of God,

for God is love.

All the love we learn and watch could be misleading as most are actually lust wrap in beautify boxes for our acceptance.

The only genuine love is the one in the Word of God.

Any love outside God is not love.

In this write up I will be telling us some things about the what the bible tell us concerning love., and I will give you the rest to find.

Remember the bible is our manual  of life,

we will fail in love and  life if we fail to follow the original statement of God who is love.

The bible is our map of life and love,

We will miss the aroma and taste of a genuine life and love if we fail to read and meditate the Word of God which describes the Godly kind of love.

God love is perfect and without blemish, that is why He want to teach us about Love.

Love is never in a hurry, love can wait.

Genesis 29:20  (NIV)

So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.

Love is satisfying and captivating.

Proverbs 5:19 (NIV)

Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love.

Love is  not shortsighted...love see far beyond our shortcomings.

Proverbs 10:12 (NLT)

Hatred stirs up quarrels, but love makes up for all offenses.

Love is caring, disciplined and  disciplines.

Proverbs 13:24 (NLT)

Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.

Love is priceless                                                    

Song of Solomon 8:7(NLT)

Many waters cannot quench love, nor can rivers drown it. If a man tried to buy love with all his wealth, his offer would be utterly scorned.

Love is un-quantifiable.

John 15:13(NLT)

There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends.

Love is sustaining; it keep you going.

Genesis 29:20  (NIV)

So Jacob served seven years to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.

Love see far beyond shortcomings and demerits.
1 Samuel 22:2 (NLT)

Then others began coming--men who were in trouble or in debt or who were just discontented--until David was the captain of about 400 men.

Loves gives without expecting anything in return.

Loves gives without expecting anything in return.
Romans 5:8 (NLT)

But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.

Love changes status.

Love changes status. 
1 Corinthians 13:1-2 (NLT)

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn't love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God's secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn't love others, I would be nothing.

Love gains all.

1 Corinthians 13:3

If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn't love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind.

Love is patient and kind.
1 Corinthians 13:1-4 (NLT)

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud

Love is the greatest gift you could ever give.

Love is the greatest gift you could ever give.
1 Corinthians 13:13(NLT)

Three things will last forever--faith, hope, and love--and the greatest of these is love.

God is love and the only way we can show that we know him is to live a life of love.

Hollywood, Bollywood or Nollywood don't demonstrate the real kind of love that is sustaining.

 The only love that is sustaining and heal wounds is in the word of God.

God is Love.

God love  is satisfying and captivating.

God is  not shortsighted..God see far beyond our shortcomings

God take cares,  He disciplines.

God love is priceless

God love is unquantifiable

God love is sustaining

God gives without expecting anything in return.

The reason of our existence is  God.

God love is patient and kind.

God  love is the greatest gift you could ever have and share with others.

God is love, without God we cannot understand love.

John 3:16 (NLT)

"For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.

Christ is love, without Christ we cannot love,

To have Christ,

you need to acknowledge that He created you and die for you on the cross of Calvary.

You just need to pray a prayer of forgiveness,

 and you will be save.

If you are blessed by any of the write-ups in this blog, do not forget to share it with others.

You can also share your testimonies with others  on this blog....your testimony will encourage  others..

Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die.

To contact us, kindly leave a comment and we shall get back to you.

Remain blessed shalom.

The manufacturer, the manual and the users

Snap bite

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

I was more careful when I was writing this piece,

I avoided telling you about my opinion,
I avoided using human example or experience,
I tried as much as possible to stay on the word of GOD.
I pray as you read this piece, you will be bless.

Body

I know you have so many question to ask concerning marriage...your marriage.

Only the Word of GOD has the answers to your questions.
The questions can only be answered by the creator of marriage.
so direct your questions to him.

2 Timothy 3:16
All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness

GOD is available to answer all our questions...He knows all.

....We just need to stay connected to Him.

Revelation 22:13
I am the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last, the Beginning and the End. 

The weak, bad and strong foundation

Marriage is so interesting to some, while so boring to others,

What makes the different is the foundation,
The foundation we give to our marriage determine how far we will go.

Psalm 11:3
if the foundations are destroyed, what can the righteous do?”

We make a lot of mistakes about marriage when me have the wrong notion for it.

A strong foundation is deep rooted in the word,
It finds it strength in the Word of GOD
·         Never get married because of your lust and for your own selfish reasons,
·         If the foundation is based on sexual life...it is a bad foundation.

Hebrews 13:4

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.

·         Marriage foundation is best when both of you are children of GOD.

Going into marriage with a person who is not a child of God,
is simply laying a weak foundation,
Remember

Amos 3:3

Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?

2 Corinthians 6:14

Don't team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?

Making God the founder of our marriage,

serves as a shock absorber during time of trials.
Because, all relationships have time of trials

1 Corinthians 10:13

The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.

·         Seek GOD before starting.

If we never seek GOD before we start our relationship,
we are building on nothing.
We can spoil a gadget if we never consult the manual made by the manufacturer,
God is the manufacturer of marriage and the manual is the bible,
Until we seek him for guidance, we will be building our marriages on nothing.

Isaiah 55:6
Seek the LORD while you can find him. Call on him now while he is near.

If we read and meditate on the manual (bible) day in day out..success of our marriages is guaranteed.

Joshua 1:8
This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

Troubleshooting

When we go against the methods for troubleshooting as explained by the manufacturer,

we tend to spoil the gadget.
Divorce is not the way out of a GOD giving marriage.
Remember

Malachi 2:16

"For I hate divorce!" says the LORD, the God of Israel. "To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty," says the LORD of Heaven's Armies. "So guard your heart; do not be unfaithful to your wife."

Answers

All our questions about marriage cannot be answered by anyone,

Your answer is in the manufacturer manual (the bible),
Go back to the bible.
The bible will answer all the questions you are asking about your marriage,

Joshua 1:8

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

Good success in your marriage comes only from God.

John 3:27
John replied, "No one can receive anything unless God gives it from heaven.

Take your time to study and meditate,

The Holy spirit will give you the right interpretation.

John 14:26
But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you.

Relief

I have not come to crucify you,

But to encourage you, and to tell you,
Your relationship/marriage can still work out,

Matthew 18:11
"For the Son of Man has come to save that which was lost.
Jesus Christ has redeem us from all our transgression

Galatians 3:13

But Christ has rescued us from the curse pronounced by the law. When he was hung on the cross, he took upon himself the curse for our wrongdoing. For it is written in the Scriptures, "Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree."

If we go back to the manufacturer,

If we read and meditate on the manual (Bible).
He will redeem us,

2 Chronicles 7:14

Then if my people who are called by my name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sins and restore their land.

He will restore all that we have lost.

Joel 2:25
The LORD says, "I will give you back what you lost to the swarming locusts, the hopping locusts, the stripping locusts, and the cutting locusts. It was I who sent this great destroying army against you.

Conclusion,

The main problem we have is actually because we don't have the manufacturer as our friend and father,

We are far away from him,

Matthew 15:8
These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.

all this principle cannot work if we don't have GOD as our friend and father,

You need to be  a child of GOD
You need to accept Jesus Christ as your personal LORD and Savior
If you already have..are you close or far away from GOD?
Remember GOD is interested in you and me

Matthew 11:28

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Without the manufacturer (GOD),

without the understanding of the manufacturer manual (Bible),
We can't operate the manufacturer institution (marriage).
The solution to our marital challenges is not with anybody,
it is in the word of GOD.

If you are blessed by any of the write-ups in this blog, do not forget to share it with others.

You can also share your testimonies with others  on this blog....your testimony will encourage  others..

Revelation 12:11

And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. 

And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die

Remain blessed shalom.